Looking after children and giving them a balanced upbringing requires that parents and carers avoid two extremes which are very harmful: passivity, on the one hand, and overprotectiveness, on the other. Passivity leads to children being ignored and missing out on the daily bonding time they need; in its most extreme form it constitutes criminal neglect. And if they are overprotected their ability to develop properly according to their age group is impaired. Children require attention, loving care and orderliness, but without overprotection.
The error of overprotectiveness or hyper-parenting consists in paying far too much attention to children, along with a tendency to give them whatever they ask for. These parents anticipate their offspring’s every wish and sort out all their problems. They go in for early stimulation and barrage them with after-school activities. They challenge any teacher who dares to question how wonderful their kids are. These children lose their inbuilt autonomy, their sense of responsibility, their ability to strive for things, their time to just play... That is not good at all. And they end up becoming the tyrants of their home, able to assert their wishes over any other authority, taking over the role which should, of necessity, belong to adults.